The 80/20 of Companionship
What truly matters.
We so often hear the 80/20 rule. 20% of the work for 80% of the results. In business, it’s about efficiency. In companionship, the Pareto Principle couldn’t be more accurate. The magic my clients remember rarely comes from the obvious things. Their sense of ease and comfort, the feeling of being seen, doesn’t come from my clothes, the setting, or even the soft words spoken from my lips. Rather, it’s the 20% that shapes the entire experience: energy, awareness, and genuine presence. This is the work behind the curtain, what my clients often do not see. It is subtle, intentional, and often invisible. Here, I bring some of it to the lights.
The 20%: Curation
Much of what I provide comes from the energy I show up with and a sense of mindfulness as we spend our time together, my whole focus entirely on yourself and the moment we are creating. I am intentional about my tone of voice, my stillness, seductively slow movements. I have practiced the art of ensuring you feel like the only other person in the world, floating in this moment of escape and indulgence.
My ability to read energy, noticing when to speak, when to stay quiet, and when someone needs reassurance or laughter have all been refined by my own emotional intelligence and learning how to attune to my client’s needs. This honest sense of connection is not showmanship, but rather is sensitivity and a desire for true connection. I focus on my clients wants and needs, intentional in where I direct the conversation for a deep sense of understanding.
The ambiance I create for my clients is never accidental. When a gentleman steps into my space, everything from the lighting to the scent in the air has been selected by myself. Even without a current dedicated incall space to call my own, I carefully take steps to shift a sterile hotel room into a warm environment. I find myself to be a hospital person inside and outside of this space, and there’s an art to the curation of a room that embodies coziness and comfort.
A final part of this quiet power is maintaining professionalism and setting boundaries when necessary. Self-respect enhances the experience, creating a sense of trust and allowing each of us to fully relax in one another’s presence. In the long-run, this helps prevent burnout in the field, and allows me to show up as my best self with my clientele.
The visible 80%
What most people assume defines my job, such as my beauty, my makeup, and lacy little underthings, is truly the easiest part. My presentation visible through photos, my wardrobe, and online presence only works because the small, intentional 20% makes it feel natural, not staged. Without the emotional depth, you’re just seeing aesthetics. But the thought I put into every encounter, every advertisement, gives this outward appearance of myself a little soul.
I hope to redefine luxury in this sense. It is not about extravagance and how many designer shoes and bracelets I own to look like a piece of candy on your arm (though gifts are always appreciated and used), but rather it’s about the ease of being together. Of not having to look down at the clock to determine what time it is, to spend our most precious recourse together: time. It’s the feeling of being cared for without having to ask. This is what true companionship is. Not performance, but presence and attention.
The real art of what I do isn’t in what you see when you glance at me. It’s in the quiet actions that make everything else feel effortless. It’s the way time seems to slow when we are together, yet simultaneously never be enough. 80% of the experience comes from 20% of the work. My 20% is the part I cannot fake, photograph, or buy. I can only embody it.